Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Husband Project: Week 1

I picked up the book,  The Husband Project: 21 Days of Loving Your Man--on Purpose and with a Plan, a few months ago-- one for me and one for my best friend (she agreed to be my accountability partner for the project).  It didn't take me long to read the book, or to think of ideas for each day.  But, I wanted to wait until we had settled into our new "family-of-four" routine before I started.  (And, I wanted to fit into my old jeans for one of the projects!!)  I wanted to do all 21 days at once, without missing a day or taking a break.

The baby is eight weeks old, so I think I've waited long enough!


Day 1:  30 Minutes Is All It Takes

I had a meeting after church, so he took the kiddos home.  This is how I found him when I got home two hours later...  I was starving, and normally I'd wake him and do the "What are you hungry for? I don't know, what are you hungry for?" dance.  But, I let him rest for 30 minutes, instead.  I made his favorite sandwich, with some of his favorite snacks:  chopped ham, swiss cheese, mustard, baby carrots, and pretzels.


Day 2: Back in the Day

We used to fish together a lot.  When we were dating, I bought a pink fishing rod, got my fishing license for the first time, and learned that sun fish will stab you if you don't hold them right.  Two years ago, my in-laws bought us fishing licenses as a Christmas gift.  We didn't use them.  Not even once.  We planned to, but something would always come up.  So, when my uncle invited us to go fishing at his pond we happily accepted!!

I caught more fish than he did :)  I even caught a catfish so big that it snapped my line!  But, I don't like to take the fish off the hook after I catch them, so I have to yell for help every time I catch a fish and DH has to gets to rescue me.  Most of the day, I sat with the baby, reading my book, and I let him relax and enjoy the quiet.

Day 3:  You da' Man

Proverbs 31:11-12 says, "Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."  This is something I struggle with, a lot.  It's easy to not bring him harm, but am I always bringing him good?  All the day of his life?  I've been working on this:  complimenting him both in front of and behind his back.

Unfortunately, DH caught the stomach bug that I had over the weekend.  We got home from a long day of errand-running and grocery shopping, and he headed straight to bed.  I tidied-up the house, packed up the kids, and left him some peace-and-quiet.  We stopped at McDonald's for some Family Night $2 Happy Meals, and then we headed to my parents' house for the evening.  While I was talking to my parents, I noticed that I was doing it again-- not building my husband up with my conversations.  I remembered the day's project and made a conscious effort to change my attitude.

Day 4:  Heart vs. Stomach

A food project?  Did I mentioned my husband has the stomach flu?  Just the thought of candy would have made him sick.  In this case, the stomach won.  I picked him up some Chocolate Cow Tails later in the week.  He was watching the baby while I made a quick grocery trip.  He was so frazzled when I got home, so he really appreciated the treat!

Day 5:  E-flirt.com

This worked out perfectly.  DH had to go to work on Thursday for a training (our first day apart for awhile!).  I sent him a quick "miss you" text around lunch time.  I think it made a good pick-me-up during his boring seminar!!

Day 6:  A Little Hands-on Attention

Our son had a sleepover at my grandparents' house, so we got to sleep in later than usual.  We spent the morning snuggled in bed while the rain poured outside.  It was nice to relax together!

Day 7:  Trophy Wife

I wore my pre-pregnancy jeans for the first time in 11 months.  Enough said.

Bonus Project:  Do Your Homework

I'm reading Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman.  We listened to a set of audio CDs from Dr. Leman during our premarital counseling -- and we both loved them.  I'm not finished with the book, yet, but I really like it so far!!


This post is part of the Husband Project Series.
Make sure you check out all three weeks!
Week 1Week 2, and Week 3


  1. GREAT job Kristen!! I love all these photos!!! Don't worry about needing to switch days around or miss a day. Just keep moving forward. The point is to make the changes, not to be perfect about it. :) You're doing a GREAT job!

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